We beat ourselves up every day and then we come back for more the next. We think that this self-abuse makes us into a better person. But I don't think that's how it works, regardless of what fundamentalist religions scream at us. Brainwashed people of their ilk constantly try to convince us that we're not … Continue reading 4 Reasons You Should Stop Beating Yourself Up
After a while the newness wears off. The house that you just bought starts to feel a little bit too small. The "new car" becomes just "the car" again. The expensive new shoes get chucked in the back of the closet. We seek out novelty because it excites us. We desire the rush of blood … Continue reading How to make the old new again
In times of immediate stress I need a strategy and system to cope with the situation and turn it into something positive. Over the years I've come up with this 5 Minutes to Mindfulness system that works for me. This approach is for light to moderate times of stress and conflict. First, I take myself physically … Continue reading How to change your attitude in 5 minutes
"As long as you are breathing, there is more right with you than there is wrong, no matter how ill or how hopeless you may feel." -Jon Kabat-Zinn The benefits of meditation are numerous and well documented. I have been meditating on and off for the majority of my life. One of my best friends … Continue reading 5 Steps to Mindfulness Now
"Play on , My Beloved... Let me not miss one note of your melody nor one beat of your Heart." -Rumi There are three ways to kill your relationship. Every blog or website these days seems to be competing for your attention by flashing clickbait headlines like "5 Reasons Your Lover Hates You!" or "Sex … Continue reading 3 Ways To Kill Your Relationship!
"The world turns softly Not to spill its lakes and rivers. The water is held in its arms And the sky is held in the water. What is water, That pours silver, And can hold the sky?" -Hilda Conkling, Poems for a Little Girl, 1920 Everything is completely out of control and I can't do … Continue reading 8 Ways I Take Control Of My Life