We beat ourselves up every day and then we come back for more the next. We think that this self-abuse makes us into a better person. But I don't think that's how it works, regardless of what fundamentalist religions scream at us. Brainwashed people of their ilk constantly try to convince us that we're not … Continue reading 4 Reasons You Should Stop Beating Yourself Up
After a while the newness wears off. The house that you just bought starts to feel a little bit too small. The "new car" becomes just "the car" again. The expensive new shoes get chucked in the back of the closet. We seek out novelty because it excites us. We desire the rush of blood … Continue reading How to make the old new again
“If I hold you in my heart, you'll wither; Become a thorn if I hold you in my eyes. No, I'll make a place for you within my soul instead So you'll be my love in lives beyond this life." -Rumi I was once a stone mason. After handling thousands of stones I became much … Continue reading Is your love real or is it fake?
In times of immediate stress I need a strategy and system to cope with the situation and turn it into something positive. Over the years I've come up with this 5 Minutes to Mindfulness system that works for me. This approach is for light to moderate times of stress and conflict. First, I take myself physically … Continue reading How to change your attitude in 5 minutes
"I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will … Continue reading Why you need to let go of your lover
"As long as you are breathing, there is more right with you than there is wrong, no matter how ill or how hopeless you may feel." -Jon Kabat-Zinn The benefits of meditation are numerous and well documented. I have been meditating on and off for the majority of my life. One of my best friends … Continue reading 5 Steps to Mindfulness Now